INFP tip #65: Perfection is an illusion

INFPs are idealists. We have a clear mental image of what we could be, big goals, big dreams, big ideas. We can be very hard on ourselves because of this ideal image that’s always in our head. Life is made of highs and lows, and great accomplishments and big fails. And it’s normal. The problem with putting too much importance on your mistakes is letting it affect your self-esteem. You are not a failure because you forgot your friends birthday, because your project never got accepted, because you hit your toe on the table. What I really want you to … Continue reading INFP tip #65: Perfection is an illusion

INFP tip #64: It’s not you

Do not take things personal. Most of the time, it’s not about you. When someone is rude to you, it’s easy to let it affect you. Our first reaction will often be to think we did something wrong, or they don’t like us. The next time something like that happens, take a minute to observe how this person acts around other people. Chances are it’s just who they are. They would have reacted the same way if someone else was in your shoes. If you know you did nothing wrong, don’t waste energy thinking about what you could have done … Continue reading INFP tip #64: It’s not you

INFP tip #63: Your magic

INFPs are often misunderstood. Not only are we some of the rarer types, we are also very low profile most of the time so we don’t get noticed much. It makes it hard for others to really understand our way of thinking. And while we are adapting most of our life, the opposite rarely happens. This is why it’s is crucial to look for people who “get” you. People who really understand your magic. We are human, and we need to feel appreciated and understood. For so long I would try very hard to stick with the successful, outgoing, party people. I … Continue reading INFP tip #63: Your magic

INFP tip #62: Social gatherings

You don’t have to go if you don’t want to. Introverts need alone time to recharge. For a long time, I would force myself to go to events even if I did not feel like it at all. I did it to be polite, or not to disappoint. Sometimes it’s a good thing to push yourself to go to social events. Maybe you will meet new people that you will really connect with. Maybe you will learn something while listening to someone’s story. Maybe you will stay just for 1 or 2 hours, have a nice chat with your closest … Continue reading INFP tip #62: Social gatherings

INFP tip #61

Let people adapt to you sometimes.  INFPs will often adapt to other people and not the other way around. You have to keep in mind that you have the right to go your own way.  For example today I was taking notes of a colleagues comments on a project. This colleague was speaking very fast. Instead of slowing him down, I was adapting and taking notes way too quickly, missing important information at the same time. What I should have done is asking him to adapt. Keep writing at my own pace and asking to slow down or wait a little bit when … Continue reading INFP tip #61

Find out what you really want from life

Life is crazy, and it seems like every year that passes gets busier and busier until we don’t even have time to think of ourselves. It’s easy to get comfortable in a routine, go to work, go to school, do what we have always done, do what our parents told us we should do, or follow our friends visions, or lovers advice…. It’s so easy to keep going when we get validation from others. Sometimes we forget what we really want, who we really are. But do you really want to become a CEO? Do you really want that big … Continue reading Find out what you really want from life